BOUNDARIES PROTECTS YOUR MOST IMPORTANT ASSETS

We practise boundaries to protect ourselves. Protect our time, energy, focus etc. Boundaries help keep you physically balanced.

Boundaries provide the necessary foundation to experience authentic love in a relationship, most important in the relationship with yourself. 

Our boundaries can be viewed as a PROTECTIVE FENCE from what feels inappropriate, unacceptable or undesired to you. 

Having clear boundaries in place makes us FEEL SAFER to express our true wants and needs. It also PROTECTS us from feeling RESENTMENT, which comes along with denying our essential needs. 

Many of us have never learned how to say NO. As a result we say YES to more things than what we are able to fulfil, leading us to feel BURNT OUT and STRESSED OUT. 

Every YES has a NO behind it. Usually the YES towards others is a NO towards yourself. 

EXERCISE

Practice saying NO to small things. I.e. If someone asks you if you have 5 min to help them, you can reply: 

I’m not able to squeeze you in right now, but I can make room to help you at 3pm. 

Usually the person who asked you for help has managed to find a solution themselves before it’s 3pm. If not, I now have time to help without feeling resentment for taking away time from what I’m working on to help someone else. 

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