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ARE YOU GIVING YOURSELF YOUR OWN MEDICINE?
ARE YOU GIVING YOURSELF YOUR OWN MEDICINE?
When you know what you don’t want, you also more clearly know what you do want. This is the value of a contrasting experience.
It helps you identify your personal preferences.
PRACTISE FEELING HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL
PRACTISE FEELING HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL
Did you know that just like you can exercise a muscle, you can practise feeling a feeling.
Why is this beneficial?
IT’S GOOD TO FEEL GOOD
IT’S GOOD TO FEEL GOOD
Isn’t it crazy that we sometimes need a reminder that it’s good to feel good. We think it needs to be hard or difficult, that we need to struggle in order to “deserve” worthiness.
Who came up with that? That it’s good to feel bad?
FLAWED PREMISE: ONE RIGHT WAY TO LIVE LIFE
FLAWED PREMISE: ONE RIGHT WAY TO LIVE LIFE
Daily we are in situations where we think that there is only one right way.
We condemn others and ourselves wrong if we don’t stick to that “one right way”. But the truth is that there is no such a thing as “the right way”.
SCARCITY VS ABUNDANCE
SCARCITY VS ABUNDANCE
SCARCITY - Feeling of lack.
Thinking it’s NOT ENOUGH
Finite resources
Focus on the unwanted
ABUNDANCE - The knowing that more can be created.
Resourceful with what you have
Infinite possibilities
Focus on wanted
CONNECTING WITH SELF
CONNECTING WITH SELF
I used to think life was best lived when focused on serving others. I thought a happy relationship was created by doing everything you possibly could for the other person.
So I twisted and tweaked myself in order to please my partner.
SUFFERING FROM PERFECTIONISM?
SUFFERING FROM PERFECTIONISM?
Perfectionism = Refusing to accept any standard below perfect.
I’m all for having high standards but I have become aware how much my perfectionism side holds me back from trying to do new things.
I want to master them right away, but mastery only comes from practice and refining. Which can only be taught by doing and daring to be a new beginner.
Maybe it’s not about lowering your standards, maybe it’s a mindset shift that needs to take place?
What is perfect anyway?
Rather than thinking it means: Doing something flawlessly.
Can your new definition be: Going after my dreams and being willing to suck at it in the beginning if that’s what it takes to achieve what I want?
I’m a perfectionist but I no longer strive for flawlessness. I strive to achieve bigger and bolder things. I strive to move closer to my dreams and I’m willing to fail and get up again as many times as it takes me to get there.
That to me is my new definition of perfection.
What’s yours?
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INVITE JOY
INVITE JOY
Invite joy and satisfaction to where you are now, rather than waiting to be happy when…
When I have a better body.
When I have a more loving relationship.
When I have a bigger paycheck.
The issue when you attach your happiness to a future moment is that “when” is constantly moving further into the future, because you continue to increase your capacity to ask for more and more.
Learning to be satisfied with what is AND eager to create more, that is the key to living happy ever after.
I used to be scared of accepting what is, thinking it would stay like it was forever. But what I realised was that once you accept it and find beauty in what is, the change to what you want will happen more rapidly than when you were pushing against it.
Joy is the key.
INTENTION TRIAD
INTENTION TRIAD
The motive to life, I believe, can be split into 3 segments:
Freedom
Expansion
Joy
FREEDOM
You are so free that you can choose bondage. Freedom of choice of how to live your life. Just like you love this freedom, so do the people around you including your partner (reminder to myself).
EXPANSION
Growth just happens. You can not stop learning and growing. With each experience you launch new rockets of desires based on the new found preference.
JOY
We are in for the fun of it - right? (For the fun of it... not just the money, the love, the fame...but for the fun of creating). It’s good to feel good, to have fun, to invite play. To be satisfied with what is and EAGER to create more.
FEELING UNWORTHY? - HERE IS WHY
The core of your unworthiness feeling comes from the flawed premise that it’s your responsibility to make someone else happy.
I used to think it was my responsibility to make my partner happy. Leading me on a path of twisting and tweaking MY own behaviour so that HE could be HAPPY.
Taking me further and further away from living life the way that made ME happy.
Result: WE both ended up UNHAPPY.
We get it all wrong.
We worry more about how OTHER people feel than about how WE feel.