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KNOWING WHEN TO SAY BYE
KNOWING WHEN TO SAY BYE
I have a tendency to want to bring everyone that I once met along my journey.
Thinking that that is the most polite thing I can do. Be inclusive, finding a way to make it work for EVERYONE.
But when I try to tailor to everyone else, I usually forget the most important one - MYSELF.
ARE YOU GIVING YOURSELF YOUR OWN MEDICINE?
ARE YOU GIVING YOURSELF YOUR OWN MEDICINE?
When you know what you don’t want, you also more clearly know what you do want. This is the value of a contrasting experience.
It helps you identify your personal preferences.
CONNECTING WITH SELF
CONNECTING WITH SELF
I used to think life was best lived when focused on serving others. I thought a happy relationship was created by doing everything you possibly could for the other person.
So I twisted and tweaked myself in order to please my partner.
UNSTUCKING YOURSELF
UNSTUCKING YOURSELF
Your brain is constantly asking itself 3 questions as it interpreting its surroundings:
Am I SAFE?
Am I LOVED?
What can I LEARN?
In order to have access to the learning part of your brain, where creative thinking lives, you first need to feel both physically and socially safe.
Your main task in life is to feel good. When you are in a good place it’s easy for others to be around you, it’s easy for you to be around others and it’s easy for you to be around you.
When you feel good, ideas come easily to you. You feel inspired to take action. You see the fun in new activities. You dare to push boundaries. Your buffer is filled up and you have energy to take on challenges.
You feel good by focusing on what's wanted. Focusing on where you WANT TO GO, what you WANT TO CREATE and what you CAN DO with what you have right now to move in that direction.
Closing the gap between where you are and where you want to go is the only thing that brings satisfaction long term.
Keep it small, keep it light and playful.
What is ONE THING that you can do today that moves the bar one step?
#unstuckingyourself #stuck #feelingstuck
FEELING LONELY?
FEELING LONELY
The other day I caught myself feeling low. Work had slowed down and I was given more time than what I had in a long time.
I noticed an uncomfortable feeling of loneliness sneaking up on me.
Many of my clients and friends had notified me about being away and even though I love my own company, I felt like it was not chosen this day to just be with me.
It had me reflect on the past 3 months which have been non stop on the road. Travelling every weekend for 12 weeks. Extreme highs with the honeymoon, by best friends bachelorette and her wedding to mention a few.
While at home, in between travels, I squeezed in as many clients as possible, so had little time to slow things down.
It felt like I went from 100-0 real quick.
SUFFERING FROM PERFECTIONISM?
SUFFERING FROM PERFECTIONISM?
Perfectionism = Refusing to accept any standard below perfect.
I’m all for having high standards but I have become aware how much my perfectionism side holds me back from trying to do new things.
I want to master them right away, but mastery only comes from practice and refining. Which can only be taught by doing and daring to be a new beginner.
Maybe it’s not about lowering your standards, maybe it’s a mindset shift that needs to take place?
What is perfect anyway?
Rather than thinking it means: Doing something flawlessly.
Can your new definition be: Going after my dreams and being willing to suck at it in the beginning if that’s what it takes to achieve what I want?
I’m a perfectionist but I no longer strive for flawlessness. I strive to achieve bigger and bolder things. I strive to move closer to my dreams and I’m willing to fail and get up again as many times as it takes me to get there.
That to me is my new definition of perfection.
What’s yours?
#perfect #perfectionism #mastery #lifecoaching #personaldevelopment
INVITE JOY
INVITE JOY
Invite joy and satisfaction to where you are now, rather than waiting to be happy when…
When I have a better body.
When I have a more loving relationship.
When I have a bigger paycheck.
The issue when you attach your happiness to a future moment is that “when” is constantly moving further into the future, because you continue to increase your capacity to ask for more and more.
Learning to be satisfied with what is AND eager to create more, that is the key to living happy ever after.
I used to be scared of accepting what is, thinking it would stay like it was forever. But what I realised was that once you accept it and find beauty in what is, the change to what you want will happen more rapidly than when you were pushing against it.
Joy is the key.
INTENTION TRIAD
INTENTION TRIAD
The motive to life, I believe, can be split into 3 segments:
Freedom
Expansion
Joy
FREEDOM
You are so free that you can choose bondage. Freedom of choice of how to live your life. Just like you love this freedom, so do the people around you including your partner (reminder to myself).
EXPANSION
Growth just happens. You can not stop learning and growing. With each experience you launch new rockets of desires based on the new found preference.
JOY
We are in for the fun of it - right? (For the fun of it... not just the money, the love, the fame...but for the fun of creating). It’s good to feel good, to have fun, to invite play. To be satisfied with what is and EAGER to create more.
FEELING UNWORTHY? - HERE IS WHY
The core of your unworthiness feeling comes from the flawed premise that it’s your responsibility to make someone else happy.
I used to think it was my responsibility to make my partner happy. Leading me on a path of twisting and tweaking MY own behaviour so that HE could be HAPPY.
Taking me further and further away from living life the way that made ME happy.
Result: WE both ended up UNHAPPY.
We get it all wrong.
We worry more about how OTHER people feel than about how WE feel.