KNOWING WHEN TO SAY BYE
I have a tendency to want to bring everyone that I once met along my journey.
Thinking that that is the most polite thing I can do. Be inclusive, finding a way to make it work for EVERYONE.
But when I try to tailor to everyone else, I usually forget the most important one - MYSELF.
I had an interesting realisation the other day as we were having dinner with some friends of my husband. I was trying to bring them along my journey despite my hold body telling me that they don’t spark joy.
From my side, it has felt like a relationship that requires a lot of work and effort and yields little in return. I always feel exhausted after we meet instead of how I prefer to feel, upbeat.
I reflected on what triggers me in this relationship and it really comes down to two things:
They don’t ask me any questions.
They are vibrating at a low frequency.
No questions asked → I make it mean that they are not interested in getting to know me. And frankly speaking, if they don’t then I don’t see a point in putting more effort in getting to know them.
Low energy → I don’t have any interest in lowering my vibration in order to meet others where they are. And no interest in complaining over something that happened in the past or painting up worst case scenarios about the future.
I want to feel connected with the people I invest my time and energy in and inspired by the topic of the conversation. Speaking about solutions, about things that bring out passion, creativity and inspiration to take life to the next level.
As I reflected on the experience the following day I realised that I was holding on to this relationship despite not feeling great when interacting with them. I was trying to make it work by either changing myself (which I had no interest in doing) or asking them to change (which is an impossible task).
So I concluded that our journey had been completed.
I no longer were going to hold them accountable for me not feeling great. I was no longer going to drag them into a place where they had no intention of going to.
I was going to release the reins.
Setting myself and them free. I was going to focus on my only task in this world: To make myself happy.
As my story about them doesn't spark joy, I decided to free myself from them.
What relationship are you holding on to?
Where are you not being fully honest with yourself?
Where do you blame others for your own misery?
Is it time to release the reins?
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