Unlock your innate power
PRACTISE FEELING HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL
PRACTISE FEELING HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL
Did you know that just like you can exercise a muscle, you can practise feeling a feeling.
Why is this beneficial?
FLAWED PREMISE: ONE RIGHT WAY TO LIVE LIFE
FLAWED PREMISE: ONE RIGHT WAY TO LIVE LIFE
Daily we are in situations where we think that there is only one right way.
We condemn others and ourselves wrong if we don’t stick to that “one right way”. But the truth is that there is no such a thing as “the right way”.
MOTIVATIONAL TRIAD - OUT OF DATE
Our brains top 3 priorities:
Avoid pain
Seek pleasure
Conserve energy
Used to help us survive but are today preventing us from thriving.
It's no longer enough to live a life by default if you would like to have an above average life.
CONSERVE ENERGY
We are lazy by nature.
Always looking for the least effort option. Trying to reach for shortcuts. For the most efficient way.
This allows us to create habits which free up energy that can be used elsewhere.
However it also has us rethink old thoughts and repeat past behaviour. Meaning we stay the same.
Where in your life are you staying the same even though you would prefer a change?
AVOID PAIN
Our survival brain is doing its best to keep you safe.
It sees the world as a dangerous place and is constantly scanning your environment for threats.
As it has learned to survive under the current circumstances, it will do its best to keep you repeating the same old patterns of behaviour as this feels safe for the brain.
This part of the brain is against any changes in life.
Good vs Bad Habits
When we talk about change, we really talk about removing old habits and replacing them with new better ones. If you think through what habits you perform on a regular basis I’m sure you pretty quickly can divide them in good vs bad habits. More or less all behaviour processes multiple outcomes across times:
Immediate outcome
Ultimate outcome