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WHAT YOU GIVE YOUR ATTENTION TO AFFECT HOW YOU FEEL
WHAT YOU GIVE YOUR ATTENTION TO AFFECT HOW YOU FEEL
Do you focus on what you want to create or the lack thereof?
Not sure, check in with how you feel when you think of what you want.
Are you feeling excited, motivated and curious?
OR
Exhausted, unmotivated and hopeless?
CONNECTING WITH SELF
CONNECTING WITH SELF
I used to think life was best lived when focused on serving others. I thought a happy relationship was created by doing everything you possibly could for the other person.
So I twisted and tweaked myself in order to please my partner.
ANGER AND RESENTMENT
ANGER AND RESENTMENT
You notice if anger and resentments are your drivers if you hold on to hurts and never work to get over them. Instead of releasing your pain through forgiveness, you replay the mental movie of the event in your mind over and over again.
It shows up as an internal build up of resentment or as an external act out projecting your anger on others. Both responses are unhelpful and unhealthy.
Continuing to stew in pain and perpetuate any past hurt always hurts YOU more than the person you resent.
Those who have hurt you in the past can not continue to hurt you now UNLESS YOU hold onto the pain through resentment and reliving the memory of the past. Your bitterness only hurts yourself.
Forgiveness means LEAVING the past in the past. To not hold it against someone, including yourself.
That was then, now is now.
Life gets easier, lighter and fresher when you leave the past in the past. Free yourself from fixed expectations formed from the past. Stay open and curious to what this moment brings you.
Every moment offers an opportunity to be someone new, do something different and start fresh.
Are you taking it?
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YOUR THOUGHTS CREATES YOUR FEELINGS
Your thoughts send a signal to your body to release a certain set of chemicals which causes you to feel a certain way. We call this our emotions.
Our emotions then send a signal to the brain which confirms the thought that we just had, which causes us to think more similar thoughts. This lets the body know to release more of the same hormones which increases the feeling.
Now we are in a thought-feeling loop. We call this a state of mind. Our thoughts are triggering our body to feel and our body is triggering our mind to think.
EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT
Like you have red and black numbers linked to deposits and withdrawals on your bank account, you have a similar system for your relationships called your emotional bank account.
Every relationship in your life is either in black or red depending on the level of investment done up until this point. This includes the relationship with yourself.
Withdrawals happen automatically while deposits require an active investment.
PAIN VS SUFFERING
PAIN VS SUFFERING
Pain is something we experience when the opposite of what we want happens.
We don’t get the promotion
We get sick
A loved one pass away
These are all experiences in life that cause pain. Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.
So what is suffering then?
Suffering is something we insert on top of the pain when we ARGUE WITH REALITY. When we think thoughts like:
This shouldn’t be happening
Life shouldn’t be this hard
It’s not fair