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WHAT YOU GIVE YOUR ATTENTION TO AFFECT HOW YOU FEEL
WHAT YOU GIVE YOUR ATTENTION TO AFFECT HOW YOU FEEL
Do you focus on what you want to create or the lack thereof?
Not sure, check in with how you feel when you think of what you want.
Are you feeling excited, motivated and curious?
OR
Exhausted, unmotivated and hopeless?
ARE YOU FOLLOWING YOUR DREAMS OR YOUR FEARS?
ARE YOU FOLLOWING YOUR DREAMS OR YOUR FEARS?
We can end up being driven by fear as a result of a traumatic experience, unrealistic expectations or if we grow up in a highly controlled environment.
Fear makes us miss out on great opportunities because we are afraid to venture out. We play it safe, avoid risks and do our best to maintain the status quo.
Fear is a self-imposed prison that makes you play small which keeps you from being the full version of you. Fear is a push away from the unwanted instead of a pull towards the wanted.
For survival, fear has been a crucial feeling. However the things we are afraid of today are rarely life threatening.
IT’S NOT WHAT HAPPENS THAT DETERMINE YOUR LIFE
It’s not what happens that determines your life, it’s what you do with it. What happens, happens to all of us. What you do with it is up to you. The meaning you give it is up to you.
This morning as I was on my way to enter the security gate to catch my 07:00 flight. A red light flashed as I scanned my boarding pass. The screen read “flight cancelled”.
What?! Nooooo! Really?! Come on!!
A million thoughts were racing through my head as I made my way over to the ticket counter. Why my flight, why didn’t I check before I left home, how could they…
I pulled up my phone to check what alternatives I had. All last minute flights were 3x the price, with a stop and leaving first in the afternoon. Meaning I will loose both the hole day and waste money.
I checked my email and saw that I was rebooked on a pm flight with a stop in Venice, which made no sense as I was travelling North.
As I stood in the queue waiting for the customer before me to finish, I closed my eyes. I took a few deep breaths and reminded myself that all the energy I spent on getting irritated over the situation was a waste of time as I could not change it and it did not help me move forward. Then I heard a voice behind me asking if she could assist me.
SUCCESS STARTS WITH MANAGING YOUR MIND
Your THOUGHTS generate your FEELINGS which drive your ACTIONS which create your RESULT.
So if you don’t like the RESULT you produce, you first need to understand what THOUGHTS that creates it.
It’s called the Model of life:
Circumstance - always neutral
Thought - gives our circumstances a positive or negative meaning
Feeling - generated by our thoughts about our circumstance
Actions - driven by our emotions
Results - created from our actions or non actions
LIFE MIRROR HOW YOU FEEL
How you feel will create a lens which you view the world through:
When you are in love, life presents loving things to you.
When you are irritated, all you see are annoying things.
When you are anxious, there are alarming things everywhere.
Your feelings send signals to your brain to hone in on things that match with how you feel. Now you have proof that justifies how you feel, which intensifies the feeling.
Your brain is more interested in being right, than being happy and will go on a hunt for whatever YOU ASK it to find.
CONSERVE ENERGY
We are lazy by nature.
Always looking for the least effort option. Trying to reach for shortcuts. For the most efficient way.
This allows us to create habits which free up energy that can be used elsewhere.
However it also has us rethink old thoughts and repeat past behaviour. Meaning we stay the same.
Where in your life are you staying the same even though you would prefer a change?
AVOID PAIN
Our survival brain is doing its best to keep you safe.
It sees the world as a dangerous place and is constantly scanning your environment for threats.
As it has learned to survive under the current circumstances, it will do its best to keep you repeating the same old patterns of behaviour as this feels safe for the brain.
This part of the brain is against any changes in life.
FROM PERFORMANCE PLAN TO TOP PERFORMER
I used to believe, as many people do, that there could only be one winner. A belief that was constantly conditioned when I was competing in boxing.
As I embarked on the journey as a CSM, I myself reinforced this belief. Making me a terrible salesperson, as my main focus was on what my clients could do for me.
When we come from a SCARCITY MINDSET, thinking that IF YOU HAVE MORE THEN I WILL HAVE LESS, we spend energy trying to protect what we have.
What I realised and what made my career switch from being on a performance plan to becoming a STEADY TOP PERFORMER, is that the opposite is true.
CREATE FROM YOUR FUTURE NOT YOUR PAST
Our brains are prediction machines and are constantly using information from past experience to predict what the future will hold.
If we have had a bad experience in the past, we are quick to project that onto a future experience.
But what if your past has nothing to do with your future?
What if you could shift your focus and rather than looking at what is already created, start looking at what you WANT TO CREATE. What if you were to use your imagination and construct an ideal vision of your future and create from there?
How would your life be different?
Good vs Bad Habits
When we talk about change, we really talk about removing old habits and replacing them with new better ones. If you think through what habits you perform on a regular basis I’m sure you pretty quickly can divide them in good vs bad habits. More or less all behaviour processes multiple outcomes across times:
Immediate outcome
Ultimate outcome